How can I teach a teenager to plan better and procrastinate less in his studies?

manpreet Best Answer 2 years ago

The teenage boy of my girlfriend is starting his first year of senior high school next September.

As a gifted teenager, he does not do a lot but still gets good grades -- very good grades actually.

Yet, this year, school has given assignments that he completed, but in a very strained manner (lack of time, tears, stress that he gave his mum and me as well).

Because of that, recent weeks have been fraught with stress.

Current year is almost over so everyone is happy.

Part of me can see the same pattern happening next year. But next year will be different, because of change of pace. Yet TB is careless about it (normal for a 15-year-old) and not taking the right steps to plan/care about his workload. TB is like a lot of teens, a procrastinator.

• What can I do to nudge TB to be more proactive with his school work and amend his procrastinating pattern? (update: after many talks with all of you, the word apathy is closer to the truth)

This is what I've done to ensure TB is doing his homework

• No yelling from me, except when arriving at breaking point. A tiny bit of biting irony always help to nudge TB
• Try to give him my perspective as an adult to instill some empathy
• Give him a deal, e.g. he can help me with the manual work of the house like door fixing, once he's done with his studies

manpreet 2 years ago