Risks involved in fraternizing with subordinate, and how to manage them? [duplicate]

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manpreet Tuteehub forum best answer Best Answer 2 years ago

 

This question already has an answer here:

Let's get this out of the way first: sensibility says the answer is going to be "the safest option is to not let it happen in the first place". I'm fully aware, and already considering that as an option. I'd like to instead focus the answers here on the risks involved in fraternizing, and ways to manage them should this come to pass.


I've become somewhat emotionally entangled with a coworker (we'll call him/her Z). Not in any kind of serious romantic sense - but we've been spending considerable time out of the office as friends, and have recently expressed a mutual attraction to each other and a willingness to indulge in it.

The situation in the office is that I'm Z's immediate superior. I only manage a small team (4 of us including myself), but my input counts heavily toward each of their performance reviews, raises, and promotions.

Background on the office culture itself: it's a smaller office, 20-30 people, recently grown from single digits. There haven't been any established/announced policies on fraternizing, but the company culture is famously open and accepting. There is also a strong religious undercurrent, with the majority of my coworkers being alumni from the same religious university. Overall, the office is very informal and close, and focuses much more on interpersonal practices than official policies or regulations, which makes it very difficult to predict how well our interaction will be received.

I have very mixed feelings on how to approach this:

  • My initial instinct is that transparency is always best, and if Z and I intend to dive in, then management should be aware of the possible conflict of interest and the steps I'm taking to remain professional and unbiased. Keeping it a secret has potential to damage a lot of relationships if we're found out.
  • On the other hand, opening that can of worms in the first place involves risk, since it's difficult to determine what management's reaction will be. If even mentioning our potential interaction is going to damage Z's position or mine, I'd rather shut things down and avoid it altogether.
  • On the third hand, part of me thinks we should do what makes us happy, remain professional and discreet in the office, and let the chips fall where they may - people may not even care, as long as I'm not playing favorites. Injecting this into the office environment may just be asking for trouble unnecessarily.

I very much want to continue enjoying my time with Z, so I'm only considering walking away from it as a last resort. How do I pursue a personal interaction with Z and keep us out of trouble? Are we even going to be in trouble if we come forward?

I haven't brought this up with Z yet, but I intend to get their opinion and agree with them on a best course of action before doing anything. I'm just gathering information and discovering options at this point.

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manpreet 2 years ago

If you think a relationship with a subordinate is not gong to affect the work place then think again. If you think people are not going to figure it out then think again. If you think you can remain unbiased then think again. Just asking may impact your job. Not saying don't do it but there are consequences. If this could be the love of your life and you would regret not giving it a chance then go for it but be aware a lot could go wrong. Most relationships are not until death do us part.

Bill Gates married a subordinate and it worked. Bill Gates is just an off the wall example of a supervisor that married a subordinate. I just picked that example as it is a known name. Have known a few mid and first level managers that also that had successful relationships with subordinates but I am not going to share their names. It is not common but it is done and some times it works.

I know it was TV but just the other day a person said those two are dating. And the other person said how do you know. And the person said I am an intelligence analyst and they leave at the same time and take separate exits. As much as you try how you engage will be different and some people will pick up (and they may not care).


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