Is a handshake necessary [closed]

manpreet Best Answer 2 years ago

My manager said I need to shake his hand at any given moment because it is creating a friendly environment. I hate touching people. Do I have to and if I refuse will my job be on the line?

manpreet 2 years ago

If your manager says it is necessary then it is necessary. In general a handshake is not considered a hostile or sexual touching, and is a quite common sign of respect. If you work with the public, it could be that he wants to show that display of respect to your customers. It could also just be he is the type of person that does not understand personal space.

If this really bothers you, I would suggest explaining to him that it does bother you and that you would prefer to limit personal contact. Its nothing against him it just makes you uncomfortable. If that is not acceptable to him then your only real recourse is to either comply, go to HR, or quit.

If you choose to go to HR, then be prepared to explain why it bothers you. If you have a diagnosed phobia, or some sort of immune system condition this may act in your favor. If his handshakes are different for men, than women, or even just you, they that can create a hostile work environment. That is something HR is more likely to be concerned about. Basically you need a reason for the business to care enough to ask the manager to back down.

But, if your only reason is that you do not like it in general, I would be prepared for the company to back up the manager. Especially if they are successful in their job. And yes, it is possible that your job could be on the line if you complain. In fact is likely to freeze your career with the company, even if they side with you.